Who do you talk to throughout the day? Let’s take a moment and inventory the conversations you are having daily.
- What topics are you discussing?
- What age are the people you talk to the most?
- Are these the same people every day?
- Is there a variety in who you chat with during the week?
These may seem like silly questions, stick with me for a moment.
I found myself in a funk, unable to engage in adult conversations and laugh when jokes were told. At first I thought I was crazy; however, then I realized my lack of response was due to being out of practice. I spend most of my day with toddlers and their conversation skills are less than ideal for intellectual engagement, to say the least.
However, you don’t have to be surrounded by little kids to be in a social funk. You could work in a hostile environment, spend most hours by yourself, or work swing shifts. Any of these can lend themselves to being in a perpetual “funk.”
Did you know we get to CHOOSE who we spend time with without rejecting those already in our life? It seemed counterintuitive the first time I heard it too but after years of experimenting, I find it’s true.
There are three questions I ask myself when interacting with new people:
- Do they make me smile?
- Am I intellectually challenged with our conversation?
- Are they an understanding person?
If the answer is “yes” to any of these questions, I’ll continue building the relationship. Your questions might be different. The purpose of this exercise is to give you permission to bring people into your life that you WANT there.
Sometimes it’s difficult to build new relationships, either the other person is busy or I am in a weird season, so I’ve found a simple solution for now. I find mentors who inspire me or peers leading who make me smile and I make sure to listen to them. In today’s technological age I can either find a podcast, video, or audiobook of theirs and can listen on repeat.
While the majority of my conversations involve toddlers and young kids, I now intentionally fill my brain with topics I find interesting or engaging every day. This has helped me engage in conversation when my husband returns home, laugh at friends jokes on the weekends, and not stare blankly when someone asks, “How are you?”
Speaking of interesting people to talk to, if you could have lunch with anyone, who would it be? I’d love to hear your thoughts!