“A father’s rejection cuts deep in a way that can be difficult to articulate. Due to the severity of the pain, we tend to lock it away, push the hurts out of our mind or heart. For me, I spent a better part of a decade believing my pain was gone and never wanting to look back because I truly believe it’s important to “live in the moment” and enjoy our surroundings. I discovered as I began to have a family—as the most intimate relationships I would know as an adult grew—the philosophies of “live for today” and “the past is the past” had become Band-Aids hiding my wound. Mantras, self-help words, and affirmations are useful; however, those methods only work for a short time when we have soul-deep wounds crying out for our attention.
When we take time to look at the pain and sit in a safe place with the past, it does not have to be a dark, all-consuming experience. I shied away from facing my wounds because it was too painful, and I would allow the rejection to creep into my everyday thoughts and actions, so I stuffed my emotions and memories. What I want to share is that, while those difficult days were less than ideal, the choice to walk away from the pain and not acknowledge it brought on days of destruction and soul-wrenching choices. I’m here to share with you a truth: we can heal and grow stronger as we unpack our baggage, and this is possible by entering into a loving and healing relationship — but more on that later.”
Does this resonate with you?
If you’d like to hear more about my journey to healing from a Father’s Rejection, even the day that shattered my world forever, check out the story HERE. I believe when we share our story we are able to shine a light on the possibility of healing and have a chance to live more in our purpose.